Ashar is stunned, angry, and hurt at her refusal to talk any further when he lays his heart in front of her requesting her to come back to him at least for their daughter’s sake. Ashar is but an ordinary man and no less than his penance for failing to recognize her worth will suffice to regain Khirad’s love and trust.Īshar literally throws his heart at her feet, but Khirad stands strong resolutely refusing to acknowledge his feelings. Such is the profoundness of Khirad’s spirit a man has to surpass ordinariness to be truly worthy of her love and devotion. After all these years, through separation, betrayal, heartache, and realization he is yet to fully grasp the true strength and integrity of the only woman he has ever loved. Ashar’s agony over this information is writ large on his face when it comes from his mother, a person he has no reason (yet) to disbelieve.įive years ago when Ashar married Khirad, he lacked the maturity to realize the depth of the woman he began to love. Meanwhile, she is still up to her dirty tricks by telling her son that Khizer with Khirad’s encouragement is waiting for Ashar to divorce her. Karma is about to knock on her door soon. Khizer earns brownie points just for that. I enjoy Farida’s plight of being the tormented instead of the tormentor. No amount of security, emotional and otherwise, provided by a devoted father can equal a mother’s loving embrace or her unwavering support for a daughter. In my view, Khirad’s decision has a major flaw: She has failed to consider a daughter’s need for a mother’s love and presence that is irreplaceable. It is a tough decision but Khirad is unwaveringly stubborn to see it through for her daughter’s benefit. While it is no different for Khirad, she takes it several notches higher by deciding to let Hareem live with her father who is in a better position to offer her daughter the security she needs. Her child’s welfare is paramount for a mother. Ashar once again is blind to what his heart has already declared to him – that Khirad is innocent for inspite of all his faults, he is an honorable man who would never love a conceited woman. He also remembers his father’s dying advice to realize Khirad’s true essence and protect her at all cost. His mind, trying to find plausible excuses for his heart, pauses to reminisce her words about the virtue of being truthful. His mind refuses to believe he could want a woman who had ruthlessly crushed his heart and betrayed his trust. Sara, on the other hand, symbolizes weakness that I dread, a weakness born out of an all-consuming love that destroys one’s essence.Īshar’s anguish over his heart wanting Khirad back in his life rips him apart. Her strength of character and her resolve is evident even at times when all the odds have been stacked against her she has forged ahead with clarity of purpose that is truly extraordinary. Khirad is the epitome of a woman I would forever strive to emulate. Through the tale of two women, Khirad and Sara, ‘Humsafar’ reinforces the fact that a woman’s self-worth is a measure of what she is with or without a man by her side. Humsafar, to me, is not just a story being told brilliantly or merely a poignant journey of the characters we have come to love, but it is more of a validation for what my friend truly believes. Living in a society which measures a woman’s value with the presence of a man in her life, this is easier said than done.
Author’s note: A friend once told me that a woman does not need a man’s approval even in the form of love to validate her worth.
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